Let’s get one thing straight, shaving isn’t about being “pure,” “clean,” or meeting someone else’s standard of beauty. For the longest time, I dreaded shaving.
But recently, I discovered a routine that gave me the smoothest shave of my life, without the pressure to be anything other than comfortable in my own skin.
In this post, I’ll walk you through my exact shaving routine that left me feeling soft, confident, and totally in control plus why I think it’s time we stop linking grooming habits to outdated purity mindsets.
Breaking the Purity Myth
That whole “purity = worth” mindset is not just outdated, it’s dangerous. It teaches people, especially women, that their value lies in how “untouched” they are, as if they’re some item on a shelf.
And what happens to those who were assaulted, without any choice, any consent? That mindset doesn’t just fail them. It blames them. Silences them. Devalues them.
The worst part? These mindsets are often packaged under the illusion of “morality,” when in reality they’re just tools of control, especially over women’s bodies. You start to see how things like feminine wash, wedding rituals, and “proper” femininity all tie into a culture of judgment and fear.
Your Skin Isn’t Dirty, The System Is
I noticed many of my family members (I hardly get along with them) shave and use feminine washes that “tightens” their private part which is off putting in my opinion. It’s all rooted in that whole purity/aesthetic/cleanliness performance before marriage especially in traditional households.
The feminine wash isn’t always about health; it’s often marketed as this weird combo of being “fresh,” “tight,” and “extra clean”. And that’s the gag; most of those washes mess with your pH and do more harm than good.
And if someone’s soap stings their private part so bad they need a separate rescue cleanser, maybe the soap’s the villain?? Also, shaving shouldn’t be for others’ expectations, it’s an act of self care, not a cultural checklist.
Just to clarify, in this post, shaving here is not about chasing some ideal of “clean” or “perfect.” Instead, it’s about your comfort and your confidence. It’s your own choice whether if you’re comfortable with body hair or if you want to shave because of texture issues.
My Shaving Routine—It’s About Comfort, Not Perfection
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Step 1: Start With a Warm Shower to Prep Your Skin
After washing my hair, I would sit in the shower with warm water on. Warm water opens up pores, making your skin ready for a close shave.
Step 2: Double Cleanse With Bar Soap + Loofah
I use a cheap jasmine mint bar soap with a silicone loofah to clean the surface. It gets rid of dirt and oil gently, perfect for pre shave prep.
Step 3: Apply Depilatory Cream to Coarse Areas First
For areas with courser hair like my underarms, I use depilatory /hair removal cream because razors just don’t cut it there (pun intended). This softens the hair.
Step 4: Use a Moisturizing Body Wash Next
After rinsing off the cream, I lather up with a eucalyptus body wash. It feels luxurious and softens everything even more. Think of it as skincare, not just body wash.
Step 5: Exfoliate with a Balm like Scrub
I use this milk scented body scrub that has the same texture as Nivea Beauty Cream but with delicate scrub beads. I rub it all over in circular motions. This step lifts dead skin and helps the razor glide like silk. My skin smells like baby powder.
Step 6: Add a Slippery Soap/Body Oil Layer Before Shaving
Right before shaving, I add a tiny bit of moisturizing soap again, not for cleaning, just to make my skin slippery. You can use body oil too if you aren’t allergic like me. This step reduces friction and helps your razor get closer without causing irritation.
Step 7: Shave in Gentle, Clean Strokes
Use a sharp razor (not that rusty 2 month old one). I use a triple razor one which is more than enough. Then I’ll shave with gentle strokes and it gives me the closest shave ever!
Step 8: Lock In Moisture With Unscented Skincare
Pat your skin dry and apply a clear, fragrance free moisturizer. This soothes your skin and prevents razor bumps. Fragrance can irritate post shave skin, so go plain here.
Step 9: Dust With Cornstarch for Long Lasting Softness
The final boss move: cornstarch powder. This is a good alternative to baby powder because most of them has talc in it. I lightly pat the powder over shaved areas. It keeps my skin dry, silky, and zero percent sticky. No chafing, no friction, just pure bliss.
Final Thoughts
At the end of the day, shaving is just shaving. It’s not a symbol of purity, worth, or femininity. Whether you shave every day, once a month, or not at all, your body belongs to you, and every step you take in your self care routine should feel like a choice, not a rule.
For me, finding a method that actually works and shaving once a week makes me feel good. So if you’re chasing that smooth feel, go for it. But do it for you, not for a box someone else tried to put you in. Because the smoothest skin isn’t the goal, feeling good in your own skin is.
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